Psychology originally focusses on what is wrong and already in college, this appeared (how ironic) wrong to me : why always pointing out the negative, instead of focusing on the positive? In fact, I was so interested, that I wanted to dedicate my thesis to this subject from which I will quote a paragraph (Anke Verbruggen, 2009, Extending the Job Demands -Resources Model: The relationship between job demands and work engagement, and the moderating role of job resources):
“Traditionally, the focus of psychological research has been on investigating mental illnesses and ways to treat them. For example Luthans (2002) found in a search of contemporary literature approximately 375,000 published articles about (the treatment of) mental illnesses. Only 1000 articles treated positive concepts or focused on capabilities of people. But recently, a shift in attention can be noted (…) Concentrating on the positive characteristics and effects of psychological being emerges from the so-called positive psychology. This new way of looking shifts the attention from the traditional negative bias of psychology to a positive one, where focus lays on building positive qualities instead of repairing things that go wrong (Seligman & Csikszentmihalyi, 2000).”
There you go. It shall be no secret: I love the movement of Positive Psychology. Knowledge and research about positive psychology helps me tremendously with doing my job as a coach. Helping people getting to know their strong points and building their capacities is one the most wonderful and grateful jobs there is.
I would never say that only with coaching you can use positive psychology to change your life. If you want to try some things back home you can for example your strengths with an Realise2 assessment. It will provide you with a lot of feedback which you perhaps want to share with your family and friends to define what your next steps in life should be. What is also a good exercise and entirely free, is asking other people what they think your strengths are. You would be surprised to notice how good it makes you feel and how empowered to actually use those strengths to make some changes in your life. Try it and let me know how it worked out for you!